Friday, August 15, 2008

shidduchim, old school

tomorrow is tu b'av. a day set aside for rejoicing and comfort, it was on this day when the daughters of Israel would dress up in borrowed white dresses and go out into the streets to dance. they would call to the young men "don't look at our beauty or homeliness, but rather at our middot"

can you imagine the load of stress taken off parents' minds when they didn't have to worry? no need to suddenly start using plastics, buying green bananas, or dishes. no worrying about getting onto the proverbial 'list'. moms could venture out of their tents without worrying about how they looked (it's not like they were wearing shaitels then anyway, so they had one less thing to worry about to begin with) no need to cover up that story about the younger brother who ran off to join the Bedouins a year earlier. and it was OK if the father didn't learn in Moshe Rabbeinu's shiur, but a lower shiur...

2 comments:

The Babysitter said...

It could be the same way now if you want it to be, you just ignore the "new school" approach and be natural.

Mikeinmidwood said...

Shidduchim these days (and im ranting here) are all about the parent inlaws. seriously they want a shidduch for there children that they can brag about. They can brag about anything from the wedding to the ring to how they look Oh! and how much of a tzaddik/ tzaddekes the person is. I think its sick. BRING BACK THE OLD DAYS.