all my friends say married life is wonderful. in fact one of my friends invited me to try it. i don't think she meant she would share her married life with me, but when i asked her how she's doing, she brightly responded "oh married life is great! you should try it some time!" that actually made me wonder if people actually think about what they're saying. i guess not.

but for all they've extolled the virtues of tying a knot, not one of them has mentioned the aspect of marriage which by far scares me the most:

you lose your individuality.

whether it happens intentionally, or other people do it to you, you and your beloved become lumped together as one identity. joint facebook accounts, email addresses, wedding invitations, you become aviandsara. or malkyandyossi. that's it. one thing.

indeed, i was at a friend, and her husband was talking about the time they went for blood tests, "...so when we had our blood test..." yea right. nobody poked you or took your blood out, buddy.

and married women can't answer any question without first consulting their better half. in fact, they say it before replying to any kind of question. i call my friend to chat:

me: hey, what do you think of the weather outside?
her: i don't know, I'll have to ask my husband

i like being just . i come unattached.