i always thought that when boys turn about 16 they become animals with no social skills to speak of-and they usually don't snap out of it until they reach about 28-unless they get married before then-and even that's not a guarantee. i had a neighbor who got married and suddenly shocked everyone by speaking in full sentences, and articulating his thoughts. on the other hand, i have a friend whose brother constantly bothered us, and when he got married, we all breathed a sigh of relief. however, while he did manage to act slightly more civil in public, hi didn't stop bothering us. he just got his wife to join him. so if we were hanging out in my friend's basement, instead of the lights just going on and off as usual, they were accompanied by the laughter of his wife. eventually this guy did settle down (with only a minor lapse at 24 when he was convinced he was a fire truck, which lasted about two weeks) and now is a responsible father.
so that was my philosophy; rude till proven polite. until the day my brother called me "sweetheart." he's 17. he swears it "slipped out" and he "calls everyone that" but i highly doubt he calls his 6-foot-4 best friend "sweetheart" no. with this slight change of nature, came evenings when he sits and talks with my 14-year-old sister.
while there are still times that i want to beat him up, he's helped me see that not all males (especially the teen-aged variety) are animals.